The Real Reason You Can't Sell

In the 20 or so years that I've been doing sales training, I've heard all kinds of reasons people say they "can't" sell, from "I'm really shy" to "I'm terrible on the phone" to "I'm just naturally bad at it!"

I'll be really honest with you: you'll always be able to think of a reason that you "can't" do something. And as one of my favourite quotes says, "Whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you're probably right!"

It all comes down to the TFAR cycle

The TFAR cycle is the way that your thoughts create your feelings, which in turn lead to your actions, which create your results, which reinforce your thoughts. Sound a little abstract? Let's consider an example. Imagine that you absolutely hate picking up the phone. You have the thought, "Picking up the phone is scary. It leads to rejection. People don't want to hear from me anyway." This leads to the feeling of anxiety, stress, and fear.

Now, when you're in a state of anxiety, stress, and fear, what kinds of results do you think you're going to get from your sales call? Bad ones, of course! And when you get those bad results, that reinforces your thoughts about picking up the phone.

It's so easy to fall into a downward spiral with this ... but the good news is that the TFAR cycle works the opposite way too. If you have a positive thought, you'll have positive feelings, which lead to better actions, which lead to better results.

When you look at it that way...

... your "inability" to sell is actually extremely easy to fix. You just need to work on the trigger thought underlying the issue. There are different processes you can use to do this (I walk you through one in detail in Sasudi's Learning Zone*), but it comes down to breaking the association with the old, negative belief, and creating a new association with a positive belief.

So for instance, if you have always thought "I'm just too shy for sales," then you could think about times when actually, you haven't been too shy to talk about what you do or why it's great. The more you think about positive instances that counteract that negative belief, the weaker it will get, and the stronger your positive association will get, which will lead to better results ... which in turn will reinforce the positive association even more!

It's a really exciting process -- and once you've shifted those negative beliefs, you can do more with your sales (not to mention your life!) than you would have ever thought possible.

Until next time,

Leigh xx

* To gain access to the Sasudi "Belief Buster" process, go to the Create Your Winning Mindset course on Sasudi's Learning Zone. If you're not yet a Sasudi user, click here to start your 60 Day Free Trial.
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Hi I'm Leigh Ashton of The Sales Consultancy

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  • /_ckcommon/images/blanks/userPictureMale.jpgSarfaraz Kamal5/21/2016 5:30:11 PM
    Love your article. definitely going to share it with my colleagues.

  • /data/userPictures/841F1C32-F49F-447C-BCFE-054E3791A3D1.jpgPatrice Henderson5/25/2016 11:26:38 PM
    It's amazing how mindset truly is all we need to accomplish anything we want!

  • /data/userPictures/3243AF74-6C14-4A30-9F93-4A87DE5AAC5A.jpgLeigh Ashton5/26/2016 4:47:49 AM
    Thanks for sharing Sarfaraz and thanks for the comments Patrice

  • /data/userPictures/A9C0468F-E25E-4BA6-8136-5823E74F02D9.jpgSurbhi Chopra7/27/2016 11:39:33 AM
    It is great to learn about the TFAR cycle. It very simply explains that our mindset is the creator of our success or failure.

  • /data/userPictures/3243AF74-6C14-4A30-9F93-4A87DE5AAC5A.jpgLeigh Ashton7/31/2016 7:02:11 AM
    That's certainly true Surbhi and good to gain an understanding of and recognise one's own behavior. Leigh

  • /_ckcommon/images/blanks/userPicture.jpgAnthony Pappas, III8/11/2016 4:09:58 PM
    After 30 years of selling, really more when you think about all the selling that is done out side of the job, this is one problem I don't often suffer. However, I wish it had been available all those years ago and we will definitely share with the new hires and slumping sales people.

  • /data/userPictures/3243AF74-6C14-4A30-9F93-4A87DE5AAC5A.jpgLeigh Ashton8/12/2016 6:49:03 AM
    That's great Anthony, all the best, Leigh

  • /_ckcommon/images/blanks/userPictureFemale.jpgTammra Laurent9/22/2016 10:38:49 PM
    It makes sense. Powerful stuff here.

  • /data/userPictures/3243AF74-6C14-4A30-9F93-4A87DE5AAC5A.jpgLeigh Ashton10/3/2016 3:11:32 AM
    Thanks Tammra

  • /_ckcommon/images/blanks/userPictureFemale.jpgSally Isok10/26/2016 2:32:45 PM
    In terms of selling i assume our primary tool is "mind". Mindset impacts everything and no matter what we owe ourselves positive thoughts. In order to achieve that positive state of mind and an attitude, i figured out for myself that i constantly need to be aware of my mindset and on a daily basis practice running positive thoughts through my mind until i get it as a habit.

  • /data/userPictures/3243AF74-6C14-4A30-9F93-4A87DE5AAC5A.jpgLeigh Ashton10/27/2016 4:42:29 AM
    Too True!

  • /data/userPictures/957C3A23-2D56-4FC9-9E24-CCCCBEC66BDB.jpgAngela Gee3/14/2017 9:11:02 PM
    Great read and really hits a cord.

  • /data/userPictures/B84D4586-BEEE-437C-ADE0-D3FBFEE77161.jpgGeorge Martinez3/15/2017 2:46:07 AM
    I agree. One has to be honest with them self before they can overcome a personal obstacle. If we want something enough we will allow our self to make corrections.

  • /data/userPictures/3243AF74-6C14-4A30-9F93-4A87DE5AAC5A.jpgLeigh Ashton3/20/2017 9:08:19 AM
    Thanks Angela & George...Leigh :)